Today, self-confidence is the Holy Grail that opens the doors to our success. It is essential in our world of accelerated transformations. We must be able to face our changing environment without losing our temper and to bounce back both in our careers and in our relationships. Taking risks, getting out of your comfort zone,… nice words when you don’t have self-confidence. Today we talk about empowerment to define the personal power to take action in our life and transform it. Self-image, self-acceptance, self-assertion, you will have the keys to all these treasures in this course.
Extracts from Self-Esteem, Self-Image
Humans are always looking at themselves. They gauge and judge themselves all the time. They like to define themselves, to try to answer the question “who am I?”
In this video, we will see how we define ourselves through mirrors, how we give ourselves value, and then I will give you 3 tips to help you improve your self-esteem mechanisms.
Every day, we live with ourselves and the image we have created of ourselves, like a shadow following us and of which we have a truncated representation.
In this video we will tackle the gravity effect of our self-image, how to look at ourselves differently, and how we can preserve our fragile self-image.
One of the biggest enemies of self-confidence is our need for approval, for love, for appreciation from our surroundings, for who we are and what we do.
It turns us into puppets, acting according to their desires and needs, at the expense of ours.
In this video, we’ll see why we seek approval so much and how to break free from it.
The Coué method taught us that by repeating positive affirmations, we have more chances to see them come true in real life. Programming our thoughts is good, but the more present our body and emotions are, the stronger the programming.
In this video, we will tackle various visualization and anchoring methods, especially to improve self-confidence.
Self-marketing, a new buzzword? Marketing a product is a well-known concept. But to market a human? Market yourself? It’s something employees, managers, entrepreneurs, and job seekers should all know how to do.
Self-marketing, or Personal Branding, is building and promoting your personal brand to boost your career and improve your job search.
The Physiology of Confidence
Extracts from The Physiologie of Confidence
We can use simple bodily movements to generate positive thoughts and emotions.
It is in this holistic view of man that, in this video, I am going to show you the posture of excellence (or power posture) and demonstrate the breathing of confidence.
Here are some stretches and movements that will help you keep your body relaxed.
As well as a demonstration of two simple movements that can be easily applied at the office.
Movements inspired by Brain Gym and Chinese energetics that will help you refocus and regain a calm and positive state of mind in the face of stress : hook-ups and positive points.
Emotions and Confidence
Extracts from Emotions and Confidence
What influences our emotions and makes us feel sometimes stressed, sometimes in a positive energy?
Here are 3 drivers: the external environment, our physical behaviour / attitudes and above all, the thoughts that we cultivate. Epictetus taught us: “It is not events that disturb people, it is their judgements concerning them”
In China, they talk less about emotion but much more about energy. Each element – fire, earth, metal, water, wood corresponds to emotions.
Emotions are seen as cyclical.
They generate and nourish themselves naturally. It is therefore more useful to allow them healthy expression / circulation than to self-censor them.
A good circulation of energy allows you not to be blocked in an inadequate emotion.
Stress management is ultimately life management.
Or in other words, how to manage everything that occurs and that worries us or makes us feel uncomfortable.
How to be happy in a world that does not seem at first glance to correspond to what our mind would want.
It’s all about trust. Trusting ourselves and trusting life and others.
Practicing self-empathy is to express empathy towards yourself. Being able to look at yourself, talk to yourself, treat yourself with kindness and dare I say the word, with love. In this video I will describe the 5 steps of the practice of self-empathy: 1 welcome what is, 2 position yourself in a benevolent distance, 3 mark a time of silence, 4 let words or actions emerge, 5 take care of yourself.
Human beings need attention and consideration to fully express themselves and give the best of themselves. As adults, acknowledgement seems to take a back seat, especially at work.
So why are signs of acknowledgement so important? Why are they so little or so badly given? And especially how to give them?
Extracts from Self-Acceptance
Do you ever play small? Telling yourself that you are not the right person for such and such a professional mission, or not yet ready to go and defend your project to Management?
If you censor your impulses by doubting your capacities, by putting off your achievements, it is certainly because the inner critic will have had the last word…
Who is this voice, this critic? How does it operate? And above all, how can we be smarter than it? Playing big as Tara Mohr would say.
Taking care of your needs, your desires, is to love yourself.
It doesn’t matter the level of self esteem or self confidence your mind grants you.
To practice self love is to take action. By these acts that prove your love, you send messages to the brain that you are important, that you are valuable.
Failures pave our way. What do we do with them ? Do our failures make us want to take things a step further, to try differently, or do they censor our desires and dreams because we now fear that we will not be up to them?
In this video we will see how to change our outlook on our past, how to play down the fear of failure and make any failure an opportunity to grow.
The notion of failure is a pure creation of our mind. We did something, it gets hold of it, it judges it, it compares it to what it wanted us to do. And… paf JUDGED: “this is a failure”.
In this video, we’re going to shake up the concept of failure until you like it or laugh at failure, or just get that word out of your vocabulary.
Failure? I forgot what it is…
Perfection has no ceiling. It is an endless elevator. There will always be a difference between our ideal of perfection and reality. We can always go higher, further. As long as we cultivate a quest for perfection, we are sure to spend our lives … dissatisfied with not living up to our quest.
Can we embrace our imperfection, or as Christophe André says, live Imperfect, Free and Happy?
Extracts from Deciphering Self-Confidence
Why do so many people say ” they lack self-confidence “? It seems that a lack of self-confidence is inevitable. As if we were born with it.
– Is it because the concept of self-confidence has been idealized to make it unreachable?
– Is it because we like to say that we lack self-confidence?
Self-confidence can be nourished and grow. How?
– By accumulating experiences and successes, it is conditional confidence.
– Or choosing to trust yourself regardless of the indicators, it is unconditional trust.
Both are gifts.
Do you know that victims of manipulation have an above-average IQ?
To be more intelligent, to be more cerebral , is to risk getting lost in questioning and analysis instead of trusting one’s intuition, one’s common sense.
You say you lack self-confidence, especially in the presence of certain people?
Understanding the pitfalls, the black holes that siphon off your self-confidence on a daily basis, will help you to … avoid getting sucked in!
In this video we will sift through the 2 attitudes that undermine self-confidence: normalization and parental attitude.
Our inner dialogue and our words are like seeds that contribute to our successes or failures, and nourish or empty our self-confidence. So what is the colour of our language, how do we speak to ourselves and how do we address others?
In this video, I offer 6 tips for developing the language of trust.
According to Wikipedia, a self-fulfilling prophecy is an assertion that changes behaviour in such a way that the assertion comes true.
For example, the placebo effect allows a person to be healed as long as they believe in their own healing.
So, imagine the possible impact of self-fulfilling prophecy in all those areas where we lack confidence?
Extracts from Assertiveness
Would we find ourselves in the middle of a conflict if we asserted ourselves healthily? My answer is “no”. Asserting ourselves in a healthy way, within a respectful and equal relationship with others, prevents us from giving in to the dance of conflict, even if the other person is urging us to.
I am going to describe the basis of this quiet affirmation (this assertiveness) through the concept of life positions (OK/not OK) inspired from Transactional Analysis.
What attitudes do you adopt by reflex when communication starts getting tense?
How do you behave when you are in the middle of a conflict? Do you slip into flight, aggressiveness, manipulation or do you choose healthy affirmation?
This video will describe to you the 3 ways of communication that will lead to a dead end. And furthermore advise you on the 3 attitudes that you need to deal with in order to reach assertiveness, a healthy level of self-affirmation.
In this video entitled Getting out of your comfort zone (part one), we will look at what the comfort zone is and the benefits of staying in it. Then we will analyze the locks and tensions that keep us there.
Finally, we will describe all the advantages of leaving this comfort zone to enter a creative zone.
Stepping out regularly of your comfort zone will evidently help you make one discovery after another, as well as better manage periods and situations of stress and change.
You will be accustomed to facing unusual situations that require adaptability and self-confidence.
In this second part about Comfort Zone, we will study the antidotes, the strategies and gains we get from stepping out of the known and routine zone.
What are we playing at?
Relationship difficulties and conflict, often take on the form of a several act tragedy, in which we play different scenes.
Arguing, fleeing, complaining, accusing, arm wrestling or looking for support.
Are we victims, rescuers or persecutors in this psychological game that is the dance of conflict? Do we move from one role to another without even realizing it?
Do you express your wishes to others? Do you know how to ask?
If you don’t ask, you are depriving yourself of the chance … to receive! Daring to ask is one of the bases of assertiveness.
Here are the 3 keys: being clear about your request, lifting self-censorship and being prepared for all scenarios.
It is not that simple to address the person in front of us and express our request
So here are 3 tips to help you take the plunge.
The first key is to make regular requests (even small ones), the second is to formulate positively your request, and the third is to let go.
Many conflicts emerge because we do not know how to set boundaries. We don’t know how to say no like adults because we lack the self-confidence. Or we say no too late or too aggressively, so conflict erupts.
In this video we will first see why we don’t dare to say no, then how to say no to a request and finally how to say no to an attitude that doesn’t suit us.