Establishing a Relationship of Equals
Would we find ourselves in the middle of a conflict if we asserted ourselves healthily? My answer is “no”. Asserting ourselves in a healthy way, within a respectful and equal relationship with others, prevents us from giving in to the dance of conflict, even if the other person is urging us to. I am going to describe the basis of this quiet affirmation (this assertiveness) through the concept of life positions (OK/not OK) inspired from Transactional Analysis.